The relationship a family member has with someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol will either be one that is based on boundaries or completely toxic. Professional interventionists spend a significant amount of time educating families, providing counseling and guiding families in the direction of setting boundaries. Codependency with addiction is a devastating problem and if it is not handled properly it will make it next to impossible to convince an addict they need treatment. This is a common relationship issue that leads to numerous problems in life. Codependency makes seeking treatment difficult, going through a drug rehab program impossible, and finding support after treatment pointless. Before a family intervention can be successful, codependency must be addressed.
What is codependency?
This type of relationship is one where one person has an extreme physical or emotional need and the other person spends most of the time responding to those needs. Regardless of how it affects the family member’s life, they continue to meet all the needs of the addict, and this is a devastating problem. This can result in a difficult spiral in which the codependent person cares for and enables the addict’s behaviors. When this happens, it makes it easier for them to maintain the destructive behavior caused by the addiction. Codependency is seen among fathers and mothers with their addicted children. It is also common to see this type of problem with a married couple where one person is abusing drugs or alcohol. A couple who is abusing drugs together is codependent on one another, which makes it difficult to convince either to get treatment.